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Prime the Pump!

There are some days when a song drops out of the heavens. Bang!   I remember specifically walking in my bedroom to get something and the entire melody of a song popped in my head.  One time I was in the kitchen, babysitting the entire eating machine Harden brood during dinner, and an idea and a melody popped in my head.  I wrote it with a friend of mine, Kevin “Swine” Grantt in about 2 hours the next week.

The very first cut I ever got was a song called “Sleeping With the Telephone,” which Reba cut on her Duets record.

We were putting an addition on the house, I was working full time doing session work, touring on Reba’s gig, and literally putting every spare minute into doing about 85% of the work to build this addition myself.  So one night my wife saw that I had just collapsed after working on the house, and she said, “honey, can we pleeeeeze go down to the studio and write?”

Now at that particular minute, I would have rather set myself on fire than have to get up and go down to the studio and try to write a song.  My creative tank was on “E”.  Actually, the yellow warning light was on.  But being the good husband I am, I said “sure honey!!,” with a fake plastic smile on my face!!!!

We sat down, I pulled out the guitar, and I had just learned this new tuning called DADGAD, so I tuned the guitar and literally started playing this melody from top to bottom.  It literally fell out.  A celestial heavenly window opened and plop, here’s your melody.

Now my wife, Lorrie has a unique gift.  She can hear one of my melodies and tell me exactly what that melody is in a song form.  In my mind, this melody was a very alty, young, indie band kind of song.  She proceeds to say “no, it’s a Reba song, it’s a duet between a soldier’s wife and a policeman’s wife.”  I picked up my jaw off the floor, and said, “really!!???”  I’d never heard of this put in a song before, so I called a good friend and genius lyricist, Don Rollins, who in a few days came over and we had the song written in 2 hours.  He really is amazing to watch.

We demo’d it the next day, and in 3 weeks Reba cut it.  See how easy it was!!!!!!  I say that uber facetiously, with a slight edge of bitterness and a crusty dose of cynicism in my voice because right now, it’s darn near impossible to get a song cut.  In fact right now, it’s easier to take over a small country with an army of 2nd graders than it is to get a song cut.   But laughingly, I digress!!!

The whole purpose of this blog post is this.  The things in life that come easy are the exceptions and not the rule.  Most of the time when I write, it takes time.  You have to “prime the pump,” like the old timey wells, you’d pump and pump with no water coming out, then suddenly whoosh!

Writing is the same way.  Some days, you have to work hard to get anything, and some days it falls out.  The trick is, being there for either scenario.  I once heard a quote that said, “the art of writing is the art of applying the seat of the pants to the seat of the chair” (Mary Heaton Vorse (1874-1966).  I love this quote!!!  It’s that silly discipline thingy that keeps popping it’s ugly head up, like the ground hog in Caddyshack.

The days that you really have to work hard totally make you appreciate the ones where it falls out.  And lemme tell you, just like when I play golf and hit a straight, down the middle, beautiful drive, it don’t happen often enough!  But it happens just enough that it makes me want to come back and try it again.   Wait a minute, golf…I remember that game!  Oh yeah!  That’s a game that people with a life play!!!  Oops, crusty cynicism again…sorry folks.

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Reba’s Drummer Comes Home

This is an article from the Greensboro News and Record.
Saturday, January 23, 2010
(Updated 7:51 am)
By Alexa Milan
Staff Writer

Drummer Tommy Harden has come a long way from banging on pots and pans with huge soup spoons in his parents’ kitchen.

The Greensboro native has been drumming for country singer Reba McEntire since 2001, and he will entertain a hometown crowd when McEntire’s tour stops at the Greensboro Coliseum tonight .

Harden, who graduated from Southern Guilford High School in 1983, said he’s excited to play in Greensboro because he loves and misses the place where he grew up.

“I don’t get to play Greensboro very often,” Harden said. “I get excited because I get to go to Stamey’s (Barbecue).”

Harden moved to Nashville, Tenn., in 1991, where he performed with country artists such as Ricky Skaggs. In 2001, a friend called him about touring with McEntire for a few weeks, but he was hesitant to leave his recording studio work.

“At the same time, this was Reba McEntire, so I decided to take a chance and do it,” Harden said.

After the tour, Harden went back to the studio while McEntire focused on her self-titled television show. But two years later, McEntire contacted him about playing with her again, and they have been touring together ever since.

“She’s nice to all of us,” Harden said. “She never talks down to anybody. We just love her. We want to support her and make her feel like she has an amazing band behind her.”

When he’s not touring or recording, Harden spends time at his home in Ashland City, Tenn., with his wife Lorrie , six children ranging in age from 2 to 15, and two “ginormous” dogs.

“Needless to say, our house is pretty insane at any given time,” Harden said.

In addition to maintaining their boisterous household, Harden and his wife are also partners in songwriting.

McEntire recorded two of their songs on her album “Reba Duets” — “Everyday People” with Carole King and “Sleeping with the Telephone” with Faith Hill.

After spending time at home, Harden said he is usually ready to go back on the road with McEntire. On average, they play 30 to 40 shows a year.

“Sometimes it’s good to get out on the road so I can rest,” Harden said. “With six kids, I don’t get a lot of rest at home. Sometimes I can actually get a nap out here.”

Harden has been drumming since age 6 when his parents bought him his first drum set. Growing up, his drum teacher was the father of another Greensboro-based musician — drummer Joey Barnes of Daughtry.

When his music teacher at Southern Guilford told him he could take his drumming as far as he wanted to, Harden said it changed his life.

“It really helped motivate me along the way because making a living in the music business is very challenging,” Harden said.

Harden also learned about music through the Maranatha Church he attended. “It was basically a nondenominational group of hippies, and there were three or four bands that came out of this church,” Harden said. “It was full of musicians. I used to follow them around like a puppy.”

Harden attributes his influences in Greensboro as leading to his success touring and recording in Nashville.

He and the rest of McEntire’s band will tour with George Strait through April before resuming their normal tour schedule. McEntire and the band will tour sporadically throughout the rest of the year, including stints in Ireland and Switzerland in the fall.

“In the studio you’re playing for the song, but on stage you’re playing for the audience,” Harden said. “I feel blessed because I get to do both.”

Contact Alexa Milan at 373-7120 or alexandra.milan@news-record.com

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Photo Caption: Tommy Harden says, “I don’t get to play Greensboro very often. I get excited because I get to go to Stamey’s (Barbecue).”

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